Why I made Valence
It started as a little overlay for my son.
He'd be deep in something on his computer and have a question, and I wanted him to get an answer in one click — without leaving what he was doing. That was the whole app. Then it grew, each feature scratching my own itch: an AI that remembered our conversations, the freedom to switch between models and providers, controls to curate it all my way — things no single app put in one place.
But the more I learned about how my data was kept and used — even on the plans I paid for — the more it unsettled me. I had become the training material; so would my wife, my kids, my friends. So I went deep on local AI, and found something that surprised me: most everyday things can be done for free, in private, on a model running right on your own machine. Nothing leaving. Nothing harvested.
Then my 10-year-old daughter asked to talk to Gemini — to ask her a question. That stopped me cold. My kids needed somewhere built for them — honest, and clear that this is a tool, not a person with feelings. What I found out there for children was bleak: adult AI in impressionable young hands, and stories of real harm.
The forest in front of my children was vast and dark. I knew I had to be the light that lit their way.
That's where Kids Mode was born — a place I could make safer: where I stay in control, can spot concerning patterns early, and know that when my daughter talks with Botly, our Kids Mode guide, she's having a positive, age-appropriate experience.
I could have kept all this for myself — but most people don't have the time or the know-how, and I never wanted to become another web app sitting on everyone's data. So I made Valence for everyone: honest, private AI you own and run yourself. I'm still building it, and the best ideas keep coming from the people using it. Tell me what's missing — if it fits, I'll add it.