It started as a little overlay for my son.
He'd be deep in something on his computer and have a question, and I wanted him to get an answer in one click, without leaving what he was doing. That was the whole app. Then it grew, each feature scratching my own itch. An AI that remembered our conversations, the freedom to switch between models and providers, controls to curate it all my way: things no single app put in one place.
But the more I learned about how my data was kept and used, even on the plans I paid for, the more it unsettled me. I had become the training material; so would my wife, my kids, my friends. So I went deep on local AI, and found something that surprised me: most everyday things can be done for free, in private, on a model running right on your own machine. Nothing leaving. Nothing harvested.
Then my 10-year-old daughter asked to talk to Gemini, to ask her a question. That stopped me cold. My kids needed somewhere built for them, honest, and clear that this is a tool, not a person with feelings. What I found out there for children was bleak: adult AI in impressionable young hands, and stories of real harm.
The forest in front of my children was vast and dark. I knew I had to be the light that lit their way.
That's where Kids Mode was born. A place I could make safer: where I stay in control, can spot concerning patterns early, and know that when my daughter talks with Botly, our Kids Mode guide, she's having a positive, age-appropriate experience.
I could have kept all this for myself, but most people don't have the time or the know-how, and I never wanted to become another web app sitting on everyone's data. So I made Valence for everyone: honest, private AI you own and run yourself. I'm still building it, and the best ideas keep coming from the people using it. Tell me what's missing, if it fits, I'll add it.